: to do or create something that causes people to remember (a person, thing, or event)
I am not sure what Memorial Day means to you, but to me it seems almost like the patron holiday of memoirists. This last year has held a lot of change for me, and I think that being someone from a multitude of cultures (Catholic, Buddhist, American, Artistic) I wonder what sort of thing to pour my memories into. I lost a friend this year who was a fellow writer, and while I traveled to her hometown to memorialize her, there has not been a formal “ceremony” and she did not state any specific wishes. Yet, I am still here and miss her, and have thought a lot about private ways to celebrate my friend.
- An altar: does not need to be religious at all, or on a specific subject. Sometimes I think about creating an altar just for a feeling or quality I admire, such as gratitude, equanimity, or trust. Here is a gorgeous one I found on Pinterest focused on nature and found objects.
- Recitation of a poem, story, or anecdote that reminds you of the people you miss. Link to NPR story about poet Kevin Young.
- Writing a letter to a friend who has passed, and burning it to let the message lift into the air. Here is a link to the floating lantern festival in Hawaii they do every year. (Picture above.)
- Meditation or quiet time of contemplation, a practice of stillness. Here is the meditation video I made for Stunt Writing Class.
For further reading, I recommend my post of Family is Where Our History Lives.